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“I am getting blown out left and right , so maybe something must be wrong with me and a girl would never wanna date me ever”
etc,, etc

Any advice on how to keep developing negative beliefs like this would be helpful.

Mark
June 5, 2011 at 1:08 pm · Reply
You don’t develop negative beliefs by not developing negative beliefs. :)

Every time you catch yourself saying something like that, tell yourself to shut up. Don’t buy into your own bullshit. Reframe it in a positive way.

Gully
June 6, 2011 at 11:24 am · Reply
I think the difficult thing can be that moment of change. We all want to change minor or major parts of our lives. We all ‘know’ what we want to change. Yet day in day out we repeat the same habits.

And as you say Mark, moments where you realise how precious life is or something similar are often nessacary.

Right now, Im 22, just finished college/university, and have supposedly got the whole world at my feet. Yet I have become a terrible slob. Ive been lazy much of my life, demotivated. Its become the fabric of who I am to a degree and right now its really sucking my potential away.

In fact my only real motivations right now are chasing girls, enjoying my time with friends, what Im doing today and what Im doing tomorrow etc. I have no long term vision whatsoever..

Nice one. So the next question is – how to minimise the detours + the side-tracking.

Or no matter what you say to warn guys, they have their own path + maybe this is what they need?
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